Attempting to actively control or stop your thoughts has the opposite effect 

Attempting to actively control or stop your thoughts has the opposite effect, making the mind even more chaotic.

In a mathematical sense, the human mind operates only through addition and multiplication, never subtraction. If you try not to think about something specific, that very thought will only multiply. Try not to think about a certain person for ten seconds, and suddenly, that is all you can think about.

Your thoughts are created by you. If you fight against your own thoughts and win, you have, in essence, lost your own mind.

The desire for control usually arises when one suffers from uncontrolled, compulsive thinking. However, control implies setting boundaries. The goal should not be to control the mind, but rather to liberate it and transcend its limitations.

Uncontrolled thoughts arise because we identify with things that are not truly who we are, our bodies, our psychological dramas, our possessions, or the roles we play. Once this identification ceases, the mind naturally settles into a state of calm.

The solution does not lie in suppressing thoughts, but in creating a distance between yourself and your mind. When you realize that a thought is merely a thought, and not reality itself, it instantly loses its power over you.